While rape is a small percentage of why women seek abortions, it does occur and must be dealt with and prepared for when ministering from the sidewalk at the abortion clinic.

You will find a mock counseling session with a rape victim here. Below are some key points and strategies for handling a horrible situation like rape with love and grace.

Key points

  • Give information/pamphlet/phone number right away along with your name and number.
  • Ask what the major obstacle is.
  • Express compassion/sorrow/despair with her and show interest in her situation.
  • Offer tangible help tailored to rape victims, such as Safe Alliance in Charlotte or other domestic violence agencies.
  • Mention God right away: “God is a God of justice.”
  • Talk about the baby’s development to humanize the baby in her mind.
  • Ask if she believes in God.
  • Ask if there is any conflict in her heart.
  • Restate her issues to be sure she feels heard.
  • Research and know rape facts – most victims keep their babies, most regret abortion.
  • Be careful not to sound too clinical (rather than relational).
  • Ask questions! This will show interest and helps her make wise conclusions.
  • Always have your Bible in hand.
  • Personalize baby’s situation with her own as victim of violent act. Help her see the injustice.
  • Tone should be loving, kind and gentle. Hard truths can be stated when she perceives kindness and real interest.
  • Offer an ultrasound.
  • Pray at the end, and remind her of the main points that were raised.

What to be careful about

  • Be sure primary tone/demeanor is loving and empathetic.
  • Don’t overwhelm her with too much information on too many resources, baby facts, rape facts.
  • Don’t forget to ask her name and get her phone number if possible.
  • Rape victims’ testimonies are powerful. Be able to recount one or show one.

Vicky Kaseorg

Vicky Kaseorg

Vicky Kaseorg is a sidewalk counselor and Volunteer Coordinator with Cities4Life. An author of over 25 books, she is ardently pro-life and deeply desires to share the hope and truth of the Lord Jesus Christ through her work, writing, and life. Read her personal blog at vickykaseorg.blogspot.com.


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