This is based on an actual case that we encountered. The grandmother’s role depicted in this video is accurate to the actual case as it unfolded for us. Ultimately, the grandmother of the baby did get her daughter out of the abortion center. The daughter agreed to go on the mobile ultrasound unit. She chose life, submitted her life to Jesus, and reconciled with her mother. It was one of those “BUT GOD” cases.
What Counselor Did Right:
- Friendly, kind, introduces ministry but not himself
- Asks why grandmom is there
- Really good at listening while distraught grandmom rants
- Empathizes but redirects to truth of humanity of baby
- Talks about human development, already at the baby’s age heartbeat/fingers
- Points out that abortion won’t change the terrible parts of the mom’s life
- Points out God DOESN’T understand and hates violence towards innocent humans
- Sense of urgency since mom already in the abortion center but still counselor remains calm and doesn’t act hurried
- Offers ultrasound, and encourages grandma he will deal with all the issues she raises … but the first action needed is to go get the girl out of the center
- Despite urgency, counselor does offer a quick prayer, petitioning God, and giving courage to grandmom. Paints a hopeful vision in the prayer of what could be in Christ.
What Counselor Could Improve Upon:
- Mom’s despair and comments, “I can’t …” may have required more time to reflect and understand her sorrow.
- Don’t promise what you are not CERTAIN you can provide. This was based on a real-life situation, and the grandma DID say, “Can you promise housing?” In the real case, the counselor responded, “I can promise you I will call them and try my hardest while you go in and get her out.”